According to the teachings of the holy Prophet, parents are to be treated well at all times, and The Almighty’s blessings in having enabled you to do this virtuous act, be considered as a great asset in this world as well as in the Hereafter. The respect we ought to pay our parents has been time and again emphasized in the Holy Qur’an. “Be grateful to your parents”. It is one of the cardinal principles of good manners and the acknowledgement of debt. One should be grateful to the parents for all the kindness, extraordinary love, and unparalleled sacrifices they undergo in bringing us up. The Almighty has decreed that when we render thanks to Him, we should express gratitude to our parents as well.
There was a young man who came to the Prophet (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) complaining to the messenger (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) saying: “My father takes my money, he always asks for my money” Rasool Allah (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) said: “Well call your father”.
As he went, the angel Jibraeel came down at that moment and he said: “Rasool Allah, when the father comes to you ask him, What was you saying in secret when you was coming here, the father was muttering something the son couldn’t here, so ask him what he was saying.
When the father arrived Rasool Allah (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) asked “is it true what your son is saying?” the man replied saying “Oh messenger, if you only knew what I was using his money for anyway I’m using it to look after his poor Aunty, she has nobody to look after her, were else am I going to place his money, in places only that I have to”
So the prophet (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) said “I want to ask you a question, tell me what you saying in secret when you was on your way here” The father looked at the Messenger (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) and said “I made some verses of poetry” to which Rasool Allah (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) said “ please say them to me”
So he said “ Oh son I nourished you when you was a baby
And I looked after you in care as you grew up until you became an adolescent
You lived upon what I worked for
and strived and sacrificed in my body and time and wealth,
So that you may live healthy
Whenever a night passed you when you was sick or ill or coughed
I was the first to be up,
carrying you and looking upon you with my heart Afraid
if a little atom or a little breeze would harm you in anyway
I could not sleep whilst seeing you sick until you slept and then I slept
When I used to see you sick,
it was as if I was the one who was sick or ill
And so my eyes would always overwhelm with tears but you never knew
And then he said, and when you finally reached adulthood
which all my life I was anticipating
And looking forward to seeing you become that
Until you reached the day
when I have all my life anticipated in my heart to see you reach and rejoice,
My son you gave me a REWARD,
And your reward was……………………. HARSHNESS!
And frowniness and mistreatment,
As if I am the one who owes you and you owe me nothing
The way you treated me was like a neighbour would treat his neighbour
I wish that you even gave me that”
Rasool Allah (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) then looked at the father and the father looked at him, and the Prophet (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) beard was soaked with tears. From his emotions, Rasool Allah (Salalahu Alayhi Wasalim) grabbed the boy from his chest, shook him and said to him “ you and everything you own belong to your father”
(Mention of this Hadith is there in Tafsir Qurtubi https://syedfawaz2002.wordpress.com/2013/08/15/the-pain-of-a-troubled-father-a-remarkable-hadith/ Qurtubi)